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Basic Policy Recommendations in Developing Emotional Intelligence Via the Educational System

I believe that emotional intelligence and healthy relationship skills can be taught to those who recognize problems involving unhealthy relationships and are willing to work on themselves. The earlier one starts to learn about conflict management, the better. I believe that conflict management is a key factor to developing healthy relationships. I believe that by informing people about the effective methods of conflict management, people can have healthier relationships. A lot of individuals use the term conflict resolution. I chose the term conflict management because not all conflict is resolved; sometimes conflict must be managed. Within effective conflict management is the potential for a wealth of skills to be developed for healthy relationships. These skill sets are closely related to emotional intelligence skill sets. Self-awareness, empathy, learning to listen well, communicating with respectful dialogue, a proactive mindset, forgiveness, not trying to control the other p...
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Conflict Management

As you may know, building healthy relationships is integral to an ethical individual and organization. The skills necessary for these relationships include accurate perception, empathy, written and verbal communication, and critical thinking and problem-solving. These skills can be developed within the context of conflict management. Why? Conflict has the potential to make or break relationships whether professional or personal. Conflict is a natural consequence of misunderstanding or different perspectives. Within leadership, there is always the possibility of conflict whether it be due to mistakes, miscommunication, and/or perceptual differences. Conflict can and often times does arise out of these situations. How individuals cope with and approach conflict is integral to the morale and functionality of relationships.  Often times, situations can be blown out of proportion or mitigated greatly by the approach of those involved. The next essay details some tips and appro...
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Dealing With Pain, Mental Health, and Abuse With God's Help

-God is just, and I must rely on His justice and not my own concept of it. He will deal with people accordingly, and His ways are higher and better than what I could come up with. Pray out loud, “I pray for the justice that is Yours Lord, and not the revenge that is mine.” -God is good. He cannot be both good and bad. Good and bad cannot stem from the same source. The good in life is ultimate and prevails and stems from God. However, it is important to acknowledge that there is opposition. There is evil, and this opposition stems from spiritual resistance against God. -I could not and cannot place my reliance on people and succeed. People are flawed. I must place my faith in God. God can and will work through people to help you, but it’s important to acknowledge that God will help you no matter what the circumstance. -God will make it clear when to let go of a relationship or sustain it. - Do not equate God with people’s actions. Displacing people’s actions onto God’s c...
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Forgiveness and Accountability

What does forgiveness and accountability entail? Forgiveness respects the intrinsic value of individuals by not defining them by their mistakes whether intentional or unintentional. What I mean by intrinsic value is the individual's ability to be the individual God intended them to be as exemplified by the moral laws that govern this earth. Forgiveness at times demands accountability in a respectful appropriate manner. It's not about revenge but restoration of those damaged by an act or acts of wrongdoing. This restoration should address damages made against any individual. Furthermore, acknowledgement, remorse, and sincere apology over wrongdoing should be willingly expressed. Forgiveness especially entails rehabilitation of the person involved in wrongdoing. It is imperative to help the individual engage in healthy patterns for their own well-being and to restore them to their true self. What I mean by true self is the individual God intends he/she to be. Th...
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Spiritual Abuse

Spiritual abuse can be difficult to identify. Often, well-intentioned individuals pressure people to believe in Christ using condemnation and fear-invoking tactics. Inappropriately quoting irrelevant Scripture or delivering Scripture in a harsh and insensitive manner are also other forms of spiritual abuse. Instead of empathy and discernment, some Christians judge inaccurately and make incorrect assumptions. Approach matters as well as context, and many Christians and non-Christians miss the mark in this area. If you find yourself being spiritually abused, I recommend letting the individual know what you've observed. If the individual insists that he/she is correct, distance yourself from the individual. God doesn't want you to feel fear, condemnation, or confusion pertaining to His character. God is love, and He wants you to protect yourself from action stemming from wrong doctrine and wrong perceptions.
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The Perfect Relationship

The ultimate relationship is a perfect one. One that I perceive to be with God. Do I believe in God? I don’t know. I want to, but admittedly at times I am NOT a good example of a follower of God. What I do know: Pursuing the Concept of God is worth it. About People who HATE God: I used to be one of them. Try not to hate something you don't know or understand. NEED and EVIDENCE for God: While I’m not sure what I believe, I do recognize the need for God. Life can be confusing, and I feel I need guidance out of the choices I make. While I feel that it’s normal for me to think I know what’s best for me., I know that I don’t have all the information to make the best decisions. Furthermore, I realize that while I may believe that I know myself, I discover things daily about myself that I didn’t have self- awareness about. I have concluded that I need God to not only survive but to live a life filled with good decision-making. Furthermore, the existence of Truth ...
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Pity and Poverty

Pity objectifies people in poverty; yet many mistake pity for compassion. Pity involves viewing and/or treating an individual as an object that one feels sorry for. Often times, looks, tonal quality, and other actions will indicate this objectification, and the individual being objectified will feel like he/she is less of a person. Pity involves a disrespectful view and treatment of an individual. On the other hand, compassion involves viewing and/or treating an individual with empathy, straightforwardness, and tact. Looks, tonal quality, and overall actions that blare, “Oh, I feel so sorry for you,” are not used. Rather the individual is treated like a friend. Compassion involves understanding that circumstances do not define the person and that she could be in the same shoes as the other. With pity, the person is defined by her circumstances.  Pity can take on many different levels, ranging from directly talking to people in poverty as if they were children to the outright ...
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