Dealing With Pain, Mental Health, and Abuse With God's Help


-God is just, and I must rely on His justice and not my own concept of it. He will deal with people accordingly, and His ways are higher and better than what I could come up with. Pray out loud, “I pray for the justice that is Yours Lord, and not the revenge that is mine.”

-God is good. He cannot be both good and bad. Good and bad cannot stem from the same source. The good in life is ultimate and prevails and stems from God. However, it is important to acknowledge that there is opposition. There is evil, and this opposition stems from spiritual resistance against God.

-I could not and cannot place my reliance on people and succeed. People are flawed. I must place my faith in God. God can and will work through people to help you, but it’s important to acknowledge that God will help you no matter what the circumstance.
-God will make it clear when to let go of a relationship or sustain it.

- Do not equate God with people’s actions. Displacing people’s actions onto God’s character is inaccurate.

-Invite God into guiding you through and healing your trauma. Do not rely on people’s perceptions. People can aggravate or worsen the trauma. You need God. Your survival depends on it.

-Do not engage in denial of the trauma. Do not trivialize, justify, or rationalize the trauma. If it’s awful; it’s awful.

-Be accurate about the depth/level of trauma and learn to evaluate it according to God’s insight and not others.

-Love is not sugarcoating; it’s being honest to the right degree and with the right approach. The right approach tends to be gentle and not inflammatory.

-Love does not excuse people’s actions. It acknowledges them and attempts to work through them in an encouraging matter.

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